Hi, you are “face to face with Shell”.
HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH COMMENTS AND STARES IF YOU HAVE A VISIBLE DIFFERENCE?
This is a big topic and I could go on endlessly about it. I want to take you through some scenarios that happened to me and hopefully in turn, help you deal with different situations that may arise for you.
Please have a look at the video below and read on:
I have spoken a bit about people saying hurtful things to me. Whether they mean them or not, either way they still hurt; maybe a little less if you know that they did not mean it. A little more if you know that they did mean it.
I have done a kind of similar series, where I spoke about when family and friends say things that can be hurtful. This can be hard when this happens, as sometimes it totally takes you aback, as you think; “why are you saying this to me, you know what I have been through”? On the other hand, your family and friends just see you. Of course, we can all say things and think; “on no….why did I say that”?
Sometimes though, things can be said to you again and again that are obviously “out of order”, then you think; “hhhhmmmmm that just didn’t slip out”.
If you haven’t seen the series, below is a link to the last page, where you will find links to the whole series:
WHEN FAMILY/FRIENDS HURT: CONCLUSION
The majority of people are lovely but you will come across the few that are just horrible and will say things because they know that it will hurt you. This is a reflection of them and NOT you!! These people are not worth your energy. If they want to act like that, let them, just do not take on their horrible attitude. It defines them NOT you!
Before I go, you maybe interested in looking at the other series that I mention in the video; again, I have given you a link to the last one, as it has links to all the other pages:
BURN SURVIVOR: SELF-ISOLATING (AFTERWARDS)