{"id":987,"date":"2019-05-11T13:43:56","date_gmt":"2019-05-11T13:43:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/?page_id=987"},"modified":"2020-11-15T14:42:16","modified_gmt":"2020-11-15T14:42:16","slug":"when-family-friends-hurt-part-5","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/index.php\/when-family-friends-hurt-part-5\/","title":{"rendered":"WHEN FAMILY\/FRIENDS HURT (PART 5)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-251\" src=\"http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/youtubeprofilestretch-1-300x60.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"650\" height=\"130\" srcset=\"http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/youtubeprofilestretch-1-300x60.jpg 300w, http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/youtubeprofilestretch-1-768x154.jpg 768w, http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/youtubeprofilestretch-1-1024x205.jpg 1024w, http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/youtubeprofilestretch-1-624x125.jpg 624w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 650px) 100vw, 650px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Hi, you are &#8220;face to face with Shell&#8221;.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong><span style=\"color: #ff00ff;\">This is Part 5 of the series.\u00a0 I hope that you are finding my website and videos helpful.\u00a0 There are a few more pages to come.\u00a0 Have you seen the previous ones?\u00a0 If not, please click on the links below:<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #33cccc;\"><strong><a style=\"color: #33cccc;\" href=\"http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/index.php\/when-family-friends-hurt-part-1\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">WHEN FAMILY\/FRIENDS HURT (PART 1)<\/a><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong><span style=\"color: #33cccc;\"><a style=\"color: #33cccc;\" href=\"http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/index.php\/when-family-friends-hurt-part-2\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">WHEN FAMILY\/FRIENDS HURT (PART 2)<\/a><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong><span style=\"color: #33cccc;\"><a style=\"color: #33cccc;\" href=\"http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/index.php\/when-family-friends-hurt-part-3\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">WHEN FAMILY\/FRIENDS HURT (PART 3)<\/a><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong><span style=\"color: #33cccc;\"><a style=\"color: #33cccc;\" href=\"http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/index.php\/when-family-friends-hurt-part-4\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">WHEN FAMILY\/FRIENDS HURT (PART 4)<\/a><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">In this series, I am explaining different instances whereby family\/friends have made comments to me that have been hurtful.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #ff00ff;\"><strong>The next story is one where I believe the person did know what he was saying and indeed was not sorry at all for what he said to me.\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong><span style=\"color: #ff00ff;\">Please watch this video and read on:<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"WHEN FAMILY\/FRIENDS HURT (PART 5)\" width=\"625\" height=\"469\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/x8FJDQ6LRHk?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">This instance happened maybe 10 plus years ago (this being 2019) and as I was burned in 1984, I was quite a way into my &#8220;journey&#8221;, and felt quite confident to go out and about.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I was out in one of my favourite rock pubs with some friends.\u00a0 There was this one &#8220;friend&#8221;, whereby he and myself were taking turns to buy drinks for each other.\u00a0 When it came to his turn again, he tried to get out of buying the drinks.\u00a0 I answered him back and proved that it was, in fact, his round.\u00a0 He didn&#8217;t like this, so said to me:\u00a0 &#8220;When was the last time your face was burned&#8221;?<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I was a bit shocked and taken aback by what he had just said but within a second, I answered him back.\u00a0 <\/span><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I didn&#8217;t have to think about what to say to him, it just came out;\u00a0 I replied:\u00a0 &#8220;You&#8217;re out of order&#8221;, as I pointed my finger at him.\u00a0 My now husband, Chris, took me to the bar to get away from this person, as I was upset and slightly embarrassed by what had just happened.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Chris calmed me down and soon made me forget about this person, and his remark, by making some sort of joke and buying me a drink.\u00a0 Chris didn&#8217;t mention what this person had said, he just made sure that I wasn&#8217;t thinking about it and didn&#8217;t let it ruin the night.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Yeah, I am no longer friends with this person.\u00a0 You don&#8217;t need that kind of negativity.\u00a0 He wasn&#8217;t a nice person I later discovered.\u00a0 I later found out that he had said a lot of nasty things about me and other friends; once referring to a great friend of mine as a &#8220;slug&#8221;.\u00a0 Of course, you never hear of these things until after you are no longer friends.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">So, in this instance, I DID say something and I don&#8217;t regret it.\u00a0 It needed to be said.\u00a0 He knew exactly what he was saying and it was a terrible thing to say to me, especially when I was in the company of a few new people.\u00a0 Looking back, I should not have been the one that felt embarrassed&#8230;it should have been him.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">He never apologised or explained why he said what he did but as I have explained, he was not a nice person and not the sort of person I wanted to be around.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">If this has happened to you, again, do you really want a person like this in your life?\u00a0 If you feel that it wasn&#8217;t meant and you still want to be around them, maybe ask why they said what they did?\u00a0 Explain why it hurt you and give them a chance to explain themselves.\u00a0 You can then decide if you still want them in your life or not.\u00a0 I just thought; &#8220;why would a friend say something like this to me&#8221;?<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Again, as I have said before; it is ok to be angry or hurt but try not to hang onto these feelings for too long.\u00a0 It is not nice when anything like this is said to you, especially by a so called &#8220;friend&#8221; but you can get over it.\u00a0 To be honest, it is a reflection of them and not you; try to bear this in mind.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Stay strong, you CAN do this.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">We&#8217;ll chat soon.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hi, you are &#8220;face to face with Shell&#8221;. 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