{"id":902,"date":"2019-05-03T13:55:22","date_gmt":"2019-05-03T13:55:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/?page_id=902"},"modified":"2020-11-15T14:38:58","modified_gmt":"2020-11-15T14:38:58","slug":"when-family-friends-hurt-part-4","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/index.php\/when-family-friends-hurt-part-4\/","title":{"rendered":"WHEN FAMILY\/FRIENDS HURT (PART 4)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-251\" src=\"http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/youtubeprofilestretch-1-300x60.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"128\" srcset=\"http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/youtubeprofilestretch-1-300x60.jpg 300w, http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/youtubeprofilestretch-1-768x154.jpg 768w, http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/youtubeprofilestretch-1-1024x205.jpg 1024w, http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/youtubeprofilestretch-1-624x125.jpg 624w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Hi, you are &#8220;face to face with Shell&#8221;.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I hope you are enjoying this series and you are finding it helpful.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong><span style=\"color: #ff00ff;\">Have you seen the previous pages\/videos?\u00a0 If not, please click on the links below:<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong><span style=\"color: #33cccc;\"><a style=\"color: #33cccc;\" href=\"http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/index.php\/when-family-friends-hurt-part-1\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">WHEN FAMILY\/FRIENDS HURT (PART 1)<\/a><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #33cccc;\"><strong><a style=\"color: #33cccc;\" href=\"http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/index.php\/when-family-friends-hurt-part-2\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">WHEN FAMILY\/FRIENDS HURT (PART 2)<\/a><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong><span style=\"color: #33cccc;\"><a style=\"color: #33cccc;\" href=\"http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/index.php\/when-family-friends-hurt-part-3\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">WHEN FAMILY\/FRIENDS HURT (PART 3)<\/a><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #ff00ff;\"><strong>Below is the next video in the series; please watch and read on:<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"WHEN FAMILY\/FRIENDS HURT (PART 4)\" width=\"625\" height=\"469\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/IJrW_l2XM2A?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I was burned in a gas explosion when I was 13 years old, whilst on my first family holiday in Spain.\u00a0 I received 50 percent burns (first through to fourth degree burns) therefore, I spent many months in hospital.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Whilst I was still in hospital, someone at my school was going around saying that my friends would know what it was like to hang around with a fritter!\u00a0 What?\u00a0 First of all, a fritter is fried and I was in an explosion, not the same thing&#8230;lol.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I wasn&#8217;t told this until months after it was said.\u00a0 I also found out that one of my really good friends got to hear about this at the time and was obviously none too pleased.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I was told that the girl was afraid of the consequences of her actions; albeit, never apologising for what she had said.\u00a0 Therefore, I feel, that she was only sorry that she had been &#8220;caught&#8221; and not actually sorry for what she had said; just sorry that one of my really good friends was angry at what was going on.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I think all of this was enough to deter her from saying anything again, as I never heard anything further.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Why did this girl say such a hurtful thing though?\u00a0 There I was in hospital, fighting for my life and here was someone saying something really horrible.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Was she trying to be funny?\u00a0 What was she gaining from this?\u00a0 Did she really mean what said?\u00a0 She was in some of my classes before my &#8220;accident&#8221;, she knew who I was, so <\/span><span style=\"color: #000000;\">why was she being so hurtful towards me?\u00a0 I just didn&#8217;t get it.<\/span><\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_519\" style=\"width: 291px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-519\" class=\"wp-image-519 size-medium\" src=\"http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/20180914_121103-281x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"281\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/20180914_121103-281x300.jpg 281w, http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/20180914_121103-768x819.jpg 768w, http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/20180914_121103-960x1024.jpg 960w, http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/20180914_121103-624x665.jpg 624w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 281px) 100vw, 281px\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-519\" class=\"wp-caption-text\"><span style=\"color: #ff00ff;\"><strong>This is how I looked around the time I returned to school (1984).<\/strong><\/span><\/p><\/div>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">As I was told about this quite a time after she had said it, I let it go.\u00a0 I thought, what is the point?\u00a0 My friend had defended me and I decided to leave it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">On my return to school, quite a few months after the explosion, I seen this girl.\u00a0 My thoughts returned to what she had said.\u00a0 I felt anger towards her at first; how dare she, she had no clue what I had gone through and what I still had to go through.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I had more to deal with though, I had to let everyone at school see me and this was what I had to concentrate on; getting back into school life.\u00a0 She was not worth bothering about.\u00a0 I knew who my friends were.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">She did speak to me eventually.\u00a0 I suppose she probably knew that I knew what had gone on.\u00a0 I didn&#8217;t make a difference with her but I made sure I wasn&#8217;t really in her company, I didn&#8217;t need this sort of person in my life.\u00a0 I needed help and support, not stupid comments.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">My view of this situation now is; she probably didn&#8217;t mean what she said.\u00a0 She probably thought she was being funny, although being burned and disfigured was\/is not funny, especially as she knew me.\u00a0 I hope that she reflected on the situation and learned from it.\u00a0 I certainly did.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Try and rise above the hurtful comments that are said.\u00a0 Very hard, I know.\u00a0 As I have said before; if you are hurt by these comments, that&#8217;s ok but try and not to let this hurt consume you, as this will do YOU no good at all.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong><span style=\"color: #ff00ff;\">I had\/still have an amazing family and network of friends.\u00a0 If you are going through something similar; I hope that you feel confident enough to talk to someone.\u00a0 If you do not feel that you have this support network, below is a link to one of my other pages, where you will find help and support.\u00a0 There is ALWAYS someone that you can talk to.\u00a0 PLEASE DO NOT SUFFER IN SILENCE:<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong><span style=\"color: #33cccc;\"><a style=\"color: #33cccc;\" title=\"SURVIVOR HELP FORUMS\" href=\"http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/index.php\/survivor-help-forums\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">SURVIVOR HELP FORUMS<\/a><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #ff00ff;\"><strong>You can also contact me in the strictest of confidence:<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong><span style=\"color: #33cccc;\"><a style=\"color: #33cccc;\" title=\"CONTACT ME\" href=\"http:\/\/facetofacewithshell.com\/index.php\/contact-me\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">CONTACT ME<\/a><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Please stay strong, you can do this.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">We&#8217; 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I hope you are enjoying this series and you are finding it helpful. 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