Hi, you are “face to face with Shell”.
I am going to add to this series, as something happened very recently. The person who said the inappropriate comment has said things before to me but because of family dynamics, I felt I was not able to deal with the situations.
Things have changed, in that, I am not putting up with it anymore and refuse to tolerate this behaviour towards me.
Please watch this video and/or read on:
Just to recap, this person has not been with me from the start of my burn journey but they are aware what I have gone through, as they have known me for more than 10 years (this being 2020) so they have a pretty good idea.
We were having a family game of cards and someone was talking about witchcraft and being being burned at the stake (I am still not sure what this had to do with the game of cards but anyway…lol). Then this person that I am referring to says: “I don’t think I would mind being burned at the stake”.
WHAT? YOU ARE SITTING IN THE COMPANY OF A BURN SURVIVOR!!! ARE YOU FOR REAL???
Well, I know that she is, as she has said some other inappropriate things to me/in my company.
I thought; “no, you are not getting away with it, not this time”. I said: “REALLY? Coming from someone who has been burned, I would never want it to happen to anyone else”.
This person then tried to backtrack on what she had just said but she couldn’t. It was out there. No one else said anything but at least this time, I did react straight away and she did realise that I wasn’t happy. She never apologised but I was happy in the fact that I had responded straight away.
We all just carried on with the game. I was glad though, as there was someone present at this card game that had been present before when an inappropriate comment had been made to me by this person. They had tried to defend the past comment but I am hoping now though, that they realise that this person cannot continually keep getting off with these inappropriate comments and that their behaviour is not acceptable, and cannot be allowed to continue.
Again, I am sorry if you are going through something similar but I hope by doing these videos, they will help you and hopefully give you some ideas on how to deal with these situations.
You can visit the previous pages in this series by clicking the links below:
WHEN FAMILY/FRIENDS HURT (PART 1)
WHEN FAMILY/FRIENDS HURT (PART 2)
WHEN FAMILY/FRIENDS HURT (PART 3)
WHEN FAMILY/FRIENDS HURT (PART 4)
WHEN FAMILY/FRIENDS HURT (PART 5)
WHEN FAMILY/FRIENDS HURT (PART 6)
WHEN FAMILY/FRIENDS HURT (PART 7)
WHEN FAMILY/FRIENDS HURT (PART 8)
WHEN FAMILY/FRIENDS HURT (PART 9)
Stay strong and we’ll chat soon.